Exploring the dynamics of attachment!

As you may know, the mission at Nature’s Narrative is to work with the gifts of our own (human) nature in dynamic cooperation with the gifts of nature (our planet) in order to support well-being for ourselves and our earth as a whole.

I think we can all agree – the call has never been more intense.

February is a month for Valentine’s Day. ‘Tis the season for desire!

So let’s begin working with our own nature by exploring the dynamics of attachment (e.g. chocolate) and aversion (e.g. chocolate covered crickets).

Just reading that sentence, can you feel the push/pull – the pull toward the notion of chocolate followed by the push away from the notion of eating crickets (no matter how much chocolate)?

Attachment and aversion are two sides of the same coin. Either way (push or pull) there is desire; the desire to have (attach) and the desire to avoid (avert).

Desire can push us around in different directions all at once. Desire can be a bully. We feel we are ‘of two minds’ and decision-making is difficult. We second guess ourselves. Regrets. Recriminations. Ruminations. It’s a slippery slope!

At the same time, desire is what defines us. Desire is the will to live, the desire to see our children grow and thrive, as well as the motivation to make the world a more compassionate place.

So rather than banish desire (attachment and aversion) from our lives, perhaps a more useful strategy may be to pause and to inquire.

What are the (skilful) desires that support me and my well-being and what are the (unskillful) desires that do not support me and my well-being? Include your loved ones and colleagues in this equation if that feels appropriate.

How can you work with (your own unique) desires more skilfully in your daily life?

This is a very personal question.

So grab a chocolate truffle and let’s get crack’n. Give yourself 20 minutes with this podcast using contemplative inquiry in order to work consciously through aversion and attachment.

The idea here is that your actions and reactions can become more skilful. At the same time, less people get hurt – including you!

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It is often useful to remind ourselves that we are not alone.  We have support. 

Just as you can befriend your own (human) nature in your well-being practice, you can befriend the plentitude of presence this earth offers us at every moment of every day.

Enter Salvia Sclera – aka Clary Sage (image courtesy of Tiffany Carole). 

This stunning beauty of a bloom resonates deeply with me as my Buddhist name, Seie (pronounced ‘say yay’) transmitted to me during my ordination on Mt. Koya, means the same;  sei/ 晴 means ‘clear’ and e/慧 means ‘wisdom’.

Seie.   晴慧.  Say Yay.  Say Yes.  Clear Wisdom.  Clary Sage.   Salvia Sclera.

Clarity. wisdom and salvation (salvia/salve/heal) are the semantic resonances enfolded into the name of this medicinal herb whose healing properties have been known to humans since (at least) the time of the Greeks. 

The fractal symmetry of the bloom alone is outrageous.  I find the purple edges particularly appealing.   

Grow this herb from seed on your window sill or cut fronds from your garden to make tea. Burn sage in your home.

Though Clary Sage and Sage are both members of the salvia family, they are are quite different.  

If you can –  get your hands on the botanical oil (be careful of additives – you want to apply as pure an oil as you can get). 

Use Clary Sage in your meditations (dilute down to 25%)  to soothe the welts left by the Kraken (see podcast above) and to help heal from the bruising affects of the (often confusing and painful) push/pull scenario.  Burn leaves.  Drink tea.

Bully be gone! 

No Kraken can withstand the steady gaze of clear wisdom born of this bloom. If you have the oil – apply to your palms (inhale) then place your hands over your second chakra (water element is analogous to your second chakra –  about three fingers below your navel).  

This is a lovely means of steadying and healing yourself in order to to open onto deeper levels of awareness in mindful practice. 

If you have any comments or questions please post below.

Be good.  And be skilful.

With Love and Blessings,

Barbara Seie

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